You’ve chosen your bridal party to represent every part of your life. From your sister to your university roommate to your crazy neighbour, the people you want standing up with you will be by your side. But sometimes your support system can be filled with high expectations, insecurities, and anxiety. Here are a few common complaints and the best way we’ve seen each handled.
1. When Someone Complains About Expenses
Being in a wedding party is expensive. According to The Knot, the average bridesmaid spends around £800 on expenses ranging from hair to dresses, to bridal showers. When someone starts to complain about finances, it’s not that they don’t want to participate, but instead, they are frustrated they feel like they can’t. In this case, pulling them aside and asking about ways to mitigate those costs is a good idea. It might be that they do their hair and makeup, or have to skip your destination hen party. Make sure they know how important they are to you and how much it means for them to be a part of your day.
2. When Bridesmaids Aren’t Meeting Your Expectations
Your bridesmaids’ role on the day of is identical to being a good friend. It would help if you had them volunteering to help with anything and everything, and being there for emotional support. Remember that if you haven’t expressed your expectations, it’s hard to point your finger at your bridesmaids. If you know someone is going to want to be involved while another maid will need to step back, designate specific roles. Don’t forget to thank your bridesmaids for everything they have done for you. There is rarely a time people don’t want to help someone grateful.
3. When Someone Dislikes Their Outfit/Hair/Makeup
It’s rare to have a bridal party with the same proportions and shape. There is also a comfort level in knowing what looks suitable for your body type. But there should be no way your bridal party are complaining about the dress on the day of the wedding. There will be varying opinions about what dress looks best depending on style preferences. My suggestion? Have your bridal party get their dresses with plenty of time to go to a good seamstress/dressmaker. The right snips and hems can change everything on a dress while still keeping a uniformity and adding comfort.